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New Delhi40 minutes agoAuthor: Sanjay Sinha
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Why am I in this world, I should get out of this world… It is a matter of concern to say this by an innocent. The child’s annoyance is seen in the viral video on social media. Innocents of five to six years of age are also facing the pressure of studies. They are also feeling the stress of doing homework on time and performing better in extracurricular activities. With age, this stress takes the form of depression. This is the reason that the trend of suicide among adolescent girls has also increased in India.
Depression rate higher among girls
According to the National Crime Records Bureau, 11,396 children committed suicide in 2020. That is, 31 children gave their lives every day. In this also the number of girls was more. While 5,392 boys committed suicide, 6,004 girls committed suicide. NCRB data shows that children are going through psychological trauma.
pressure on children to perform well
Dr. Varun S. Mehta, Associate Professor, Central Institute of Psychiatry, says that children consider school as a second home. So be it class work or homework, they take it very seriously. Parents may find these minor things but children are sensitive about it. There is increasing pressure on them to do well in school as well.
Parents expect their children to perform well in the examination. They evaluate them on the basis of marks. This puts children under pressure.
The wish of the parents – the child should top everywhere
Children are not only under pressure to study but also have the stress of doing best in extracurricular activities. Although not all parents have enough resources, those who are capable want the child to participate and top them. Parents want their child to be ahead in everything like painting, dancing, sports. They keep telling the children again and again that look, their child is coming in singing or dancing on this channel. He also got 95 percent marks etc. In such a situation, there is pressure on the child.
Children get tensed even without your saying
Dr. Varun explains that new age parenting has created a strange kind of crisis. When parents want my child to be like this or the best, then the pressure on the child is high. There are some parents who say that no matter how you study, it doesn’t matter. Don’t take stress But such children also realize what the parents think about them or the parents are under stress about my studies.
A published study titled School Stress in India: Effects on Time and Daily Emotions describes how children are stressed about schoolwork and homework.
Children get weak by taking load of homework
According to a study in the International Journal of Behavioral Development, children’s schoolwork has many side effects. Children who spend more time on homework are emotionally weak. There is some kind of anxiety in them. But parents do not understand this.
More cases of self-injury in girls
Dr. K Prasad, Assistant Professor, Department of Psychiatric Social Work, Central Institute of Ranchi, says that emotions are usually the most late development in children. They didn’t know how to behave. But seeing TV, mobile or social media, they have started reacting immediately. In our society, boys are able to tell or share their point in some way, but girls are isolated. Hides her feelings. That’s why there are more cases of self-injury in girls. When girls are at the age of 11 to 13, then they try to harm themselves even on small things. The issue of parenting is more visible here too.
If Chintu brings less marks then the sky will not explode.
- Pay attention to the socialization of the child, pay attention to what the child is learning
- Life is important, not performance in school-college, teach children
- Change the way parents see their kids mechanically
- Stop Seeing Kids as Digits, Don’t Evaluate by Marks
- Parents adopt practical method, be a friend of children, make future
- Somewhere the teacher is not putting pressure on the child to perform well, keep in mind
Social media is also becoming a tool of stress among children. Information spreads rapidly around the world. There are more negative messages in these.
Evaluation of child on the basis of score card dangerous
Parenting in our country has been violent, says Vishwambhar Nath Prajapati, assistant professor in the department of sociology at Udit Narayan PG College Padrauna in Kushinagar, Uttar Pradesh. There is more mental violence in parenting than physical. From the beginning no attempt has been made to understand children. Whether children are being socialized or not, there is no attention at all. Parents should consider their score big by not appreciating the children. In a way, parents are cut off from practical things. Consider getting score more important. Looking at life mechanically.
Parents make children feel that good marks will come, medals will come in sports, only then it is important. Parents tend to forget that a test does not evaluate the child, it is the evaluation of the questions asked. Even schools and colleges do not understand this. Evaluation of a child on the basis of marks alone is dangerous. Many children do well in written exams but not in objective tests. Parents do not want to understand this. Parents feel that if marks are coming less now then they will not perform well in 10th. If the marks are not good in 10th then the result will be bad in 12th also. Career will not be possible in future. By repeatedly expressing this fear, they weaken the children further.